"With all that has happened to you,
you can either feel sorry for yourself,
or treat all that has happened, as gifts.
Everything is either an opportunity to grow
or an obstacle to keep you from growing.
You get to choose."
~original author unkown
Sure, we may feel down and negative after things do not turn out the way we had hoped they would. However, in the long run, remaining in this mode only leads us to feeling more like victims.
A friend and mentor of mine, Dr. Susan Jeffers, is the author of, (among many others), Feel The Fear and Do It Anyway. She published a list of key points on how to make better, (even if tougher), choices.
Today I share with you: http://www.susanjeffers.com/home/article.cfm
Another great book on how to make better choices is The Right Questions, by Debbie Ford. Ford outlines "The 10 Right Questions" with clarity while offering a road map on how to and why: "If we want our lives to be different, better, then we must learn to make new choices which will lead us to new actions. These should be based on asking the right questions of ourselves." When we do as Ford suggests, the chances we will experience better, more positive outcomes, goes way up.
Ford encourages the reader by reminding them that asking these questions "will give you the power and inspiration to consciously create a life you feel good about, one choice at a time."
Like Debbie Ford, I once read a statement by Tony Robbins, that continues to resonate with me today, "Quality questions create a quality life."
The choice is ours! We can choose to view experiences negatively or as opportunities for positive growth which will transform us into survivors! If we have truly learned something, gained even better coping skills, eventually, we will think, feel and do better the next time.
Positive growth is about being willing to ask ourselves the, tough, right questions, learning to make the best choices for ourselves and then having the courage to act upon them.
Be assured: I choose positive growth; no matter how difficult the path.
Victoria
