Saturday, July 30, 2011

We Are The Change We Seek!

"Be the change you want to see in the world."
~ Gandhi

"Change will not come if we wait for some other person, some other time. We are the ones we have been waiting for. We are the change we seek."
~ Pres. Barack Obama

If you have read my last couple of posts, (especially if you have read several of them), you know I believe this to be true: If you are not feeling your best or believe you could Think, Feel and Do, better, the time for change is now. Positive Adaptation is the key.

I am not suggesting just waking up and quitting your jobs, breaking off relationships or any other type of sudden shift in your life, (except one). However, nor should we just sit and wait for other people, situations or "things" around us to change. These changes may very well not occur, (especially not fast enough or the way we want them to).

What we do have, today, is the power to change ourselves, at anytime. NOTE: Just because that's the way it's always been DOES NOT mean that's the way it always has to be.

This may be a great time to re-read my post entitled "Ruby Slippers" here: http://positiveadaptation.blogspot.com/2009/04/ruby-slippers.html

If you can honestly say, (as you are already feeling), you are not as happy as you believe you can be.... then the answer is simple:
The time for change is now! Why not begin your positive changes today?

As a clinician, I often hear, "Well, yes, I want things to change, me to change, BUT...I am scared of it too!" Fair enough, many of us are fearful of change. So maybe, right now, you cannot say, "I want to change!" and mean it 100%. Maybe you are only ready to say, "I want to want to change." That is good enough for now. That too, is a start! With an open mind and heart, time and work, you too will get here. If you can learn to believe in yourself and believe you too deserve to be happy, you will make the necessary changes, eventually.

We can and must work through our fear of change or we will not Think, Feel and Do better! When stated like this, is there really another, better, option?

We need to Think, Feel and Do, (be), differently to find out what type of change we must seek. When we have, eventually we will begin to feel better about ourselves and be better able to enjoy life to the fullest.

First we must think and feel about what, exactly, it is that is not "working" for us right now. Besides not having won the lottery last night, (as money does not buy happiness anyway, it only makes misery more comfortable), we must ask ourselves some important questions. WHY am I not happy and WHAT can I DO to change this?

Are we taking good enough care of ourselves? Do we like/love ourselves as much as we can? Whether it be a relationship or job, or just feeling "stuck" or stagnant in our lives, remember to consider: Is it really them or me who needs to make the changes? Even if you wish they would change, would your making the necessary changes you need at least help your situation? *Again, remember, we cannot change them, ("they" have to be willing and capable of change).

We Can Make Positive Changes in Us and Our Lives!

Of course to achieve true positive change, our goal must be to change ourselves without causing unnecessary or undue pain to anyone else.

Today, let us have the courage to Think and Feel the positive changes we want and need to make in ourselves and our lives today.

Part 2 will be all about the How To's! Once we have a pretty clear idea as to what changes are needed, the question then becomes: Now what? and What are we going to DO about it? We need a plan, a step by step outline, so we may ultimately achieve the changes we seek and also be able to measure how we are doing along the way.

I feel the winds of change in the air. I have the courage, do you? 
Victoria


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