Practicing Positive Adaptation; 'Think, Feel and Do' your best, become your best so that you may live and enjoy life to the fullest is a wonderful way to achieve the improvement you seek.
Changing our relationship with ourselves and our lives, first, is a critical component to making any long term changes in our relationships with others.
Positive, healthy personal boundaries are a set of physical, emotional and mental limits we establish in order to 1) best protect ourselves from any type of harm 2) Allow healthy people and relationships into our lives while keeping out those that are not and 3) help us express ourselves as the unique individuals that we are, while simultaneously acknowledging and respecting the same in others.
We must learn to recognize that we are all individuals with our own thoughts, feelings, attitudes and values. This means we must also acknowledge the same is true for our spouses, children, friends, coworkers and others. We are all entitled to have our boundaries respected and honored. This is the only way to have healthy relationships, of any sort, in our lives.
It is not possible to have a healthy relationship, of any kind, with someone who has no boundaries nor someone who cannot communicate their needs and wants, directly and honestly. Therefore, learning to set personal boundaries is a vital step in learning to be a good friend to ourselves, as well, as others.
We change and grow as we experience life's transitions. You may have grown up and out of your past and current boundaries, even those which had once been unknown frontiers. It may just be time to reevaluate who you are, (now), who you want to become and in what ways you would like to improve all the relationships in you life.
Promoting new, positive, healthier boundaries is a wonderful place to begin. Remember, it is never to late to establish, reestablish and maintain positive, healthy boundaries for yourself.
Please consider where your boundaries are and where you would like them to be. I will discuss more in depth the how's in: Positive, Healthy Personal Boundaries - Part Two, coming soon.
Until then, consider you have a right and a need for boundaries and so do 'they'.
Photo by: Victoria Baum, (Sidewalk Cafe in Quebec City)