Tuesday, September 28, 2010
~ Maureen Dowd, N.Y. Times
I define settling as: accepting the unacceptable. Oddly enough, many of us seem to continually rationalize, (especially in our relationships), lowering our standards of what is acceptable to us, (having our needs and most of our wants met), until at some point, we are so miserable and find out what we have settled for. And we wonder how we got here.
I am completely in favor of compromise. Compromise is defined: as the result of a process of communication and give and take, we mutually agree to make concessions so that all parties feel it is fair and equitable.
Sure, we may have to give something up, but we are doing so in an effort to get our needs and wants met and help others do the same.
We generally do not find ourselves wondering how we got here or miserable when the art of compromise is used. No, that misery is left for those who settle for less than having their needs and most of their wants met.
We can all do better. Once you believe in yourself and understand that you are worth more, you too can learn the art and benefits of compromise. Will we always get what we need and want, (especially from other people), probably not. This is when acceptance and Positive Adaptation are very helpful.
Life is too short to "settle". Today find where you may be settling for less than you need, want or deserve and apply compromise to the situation. You will "Think, Feel and Do" better for it.
Make it a great one!
Photo by: Renee Rendler-Kaplan